JboyTH wrote:

I am a young gay living in Pattaya permanently.. I have to live here becouse of my job but I really feel uncomfortable in the gay life of Pattaya..
 may be you can give me any advice?Thank you

I have every sympathy for your predicament. I too am young compared to many farang in Pattaya. I am reasonably good looking for my age. Yet no farang, in the many years I have been here,  has made a pass at me nor have they reacted to my advances. It really s me but I just have to make do with the company of young Thai guys. I feel totally ashamed walking with a 19 or 20 year old but after doing it with a few hundred over the years you get used to it.

You're not alone Jboy.
I'm slim goodlookin and in my 40s.

But I look like Im in my 30s...

If you want to meet genuine thai gays , just avoid boyztown and sunee plaza , goto one of the popular karaoke discos , and its easy to meet friends there , but since you're the farang , you have to pay for all the drinks, because they know you are the rich guy.  
Then if you're lucky you will find a real friend, interested in you're cute sexy farang body and not just the money.

Also try one of the serious gay asian dating websites, like fridae.com .  


    

JboyTH wrote:

ok I explain.. for me most important thing is to know thatmy partner really likes me but not my money.. so when I'll be 70 y o I hope I'll find a partner who will find me sexually attractive, if he will be younger than me - lucky me.... but if nobody will like me exept moneyboys.. I'll better be alone... I don't enjoy sex and can't feel horny if I know that I am disgusting for my partner...

PS two old men hand in hand are not disgusting for me at all

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They always look on me like on the piece of meat...

Well,  my perspective hasn't changed since I was 18...it's always a turn-on to have someone look at me as a piece of meat, regardless of their age.  

Jboy,

If you came to Pattaya thinking you were going to be in the lime light because of your age, you were wrong, as you have already figured out.  When you're sitting in a pay-as-you-go environment, all things are equal.  The Thai boys could care less about your age at that point.  If they want the "real meat" they'll wait patiently until they're back in their rooms with their young Thai boy friends or wife's - the same way you would if you were in their shoes.

It's funny, but I've visited Jomtien Beach a few times and had the Thai boys look at me as if I were a piece of meat.  Of course I know they're in it for the money, but I don't let that distract for a minute.  Go ahead, you gorgeous young sex machines, eat me with both hands.

JboyTH wrote:

ok I explain.. for me most important thing is to know thatmy partner really likes me but not my money.. so when I'll be 70 y o I hope I'll find a partner who will find me sexually attractive, if he will be younger than me - lucky me.... but if nobody will like me exept moneyboys.. I'll better be alone... I don't enjoy sex and can't feel horny if I know that I am disgusting for my partner...

PS two old men hand in hand are not disgusting for me at all

I can assure you they don't like for my money..I haven't got any !!..but it sounds like you have money JboyTH..i will like you for yourself ( the money is of no interest to me..but how much do have have ?)

I must say I 've lived long enough to see the young ones who thought that old people were unattractive turn into unattractive people themselves..it's all in the mind !!

Only a year ago I ran into what was once a gorgeous 18 year old Scottish boy who seduced me when I was 30 and acted like he was doing me such a favor..he approached me in a London pub and he had no teeth and looked like the back end of a bus !!..I ran as fast as I could..

Send out nice vibes and they will come back to you.

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JboyTH wrote:

fattman, no doubt one day I'll become old too... but I hope I'll not do such a stupid things like many old farangs do.. I'll not buy moneyboys.. I see a lot of very old ugly farangs walking hand in hand with 18 y o boys... don't they understand how disgusting they look?

That's how I felt when I was young. Wait until you are older, the sexual desire doesn't go away. Your words will come back and haunt you. You will become in your own words a disgusting old farang with a young boy walking hand in hand.

several years ago, I was in Babylon sauna and saw an elderly farang (older than me) looking at me, while I loitered near the
steam room.  He keep looking and I thought maybe I knew him but at some point I realized he was cruising me and I was
shocked.  
I was in my mid-fifties and looked it (unlike some who think they look a decade younger) and certainly not fit with ample girth.
I realized that I had been cruised before by farangs (ok, once before) and also thought it was someone who knew me..

I don't always wear my eyeglasses  in saunas and with scant lightning, it can be difficult to ascertain other farangs motives.

There was no way I would have considered the cruising eyes of the elderly farang but I do recall a story of an older farang,
just short of 70 y.o., who claimed a hot European stud cruised him at Babylon and they had a great hot time.  This farang had
face lifted and dyed his hair but it was difficult to believe a hot 30 something farang would go  for him.

He explained that the 30 something farang was in BKK on business and didn't like Asian men at all.  The older farang
is a habitual Babylon goer and shameless   I am sure he was crusing the younger farang and since there were slim pickings, he got lucky.
This might have all happened in a dark room but the point of all this is you never know and don't let the ageists get you down...

Be careful, JBoyTH, what comes around goes around!


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You have two points of interest, both of which emanate from a self centered approach to life, that does not generate a speck of sympathy.  Some would call it a "Me Me Me" approach to life.  You are one person with a perfect right to be self centered and you also have the right to be in error if you choose.  Why are you so concerned about what others think of you?  Or again one might ask, why are you  are so concerned with the looks of others, namely the old guys holding hands with 20 somethings.  Grouching that Pattaya is not nice for young like you, could be said about any place.  New York, is not pleasing for the young.   San Jose is not pleasing for 50 year olds.  Los Angeles is not good for teens.  Your further comments about the motivations for the young and old getting together is nothing new.  If you don't care to see this variety of guys, then don't look at them.  It will not bother them at all if you stay at home and enjoy your life, then you can keep your bonmots to yourself as well.  That would clear the  beach and streets for me any my Thai friends. I really like a protective hand holding mine when we cross  2nd Soi by Boystown.  I think with my years of experience in crossing streets I could do a perfectly good job by myself, but I delight in the care of my younger friends who hold hands with me while crossing, and then are not prone to slip it away even after a successful crossing.  If you are not enjoying Pattaya, it might be you have the personality traits of the guy who fell in a vat a beer and bobbed to the surface and complained that he would like to have a bottle of beer.

Here's a video of JboyTH 50 years from now...enjoying the company of his peers.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=3381985985899653801&q=%22lemon+party%22&ei=PwhySMrhBZHcwgOQ99HJBQ&hl=en

JboyTH wrote:

I am a young gay living in Pattaya permanently.. I have to live here becouse of my job but I really feel uncomfortable in the gay life of Pattaya..
For example, on the gay beach I can see only big bellied old farangs with their young moneyboys.. They always look on me like on the piece of meat...
Same in the gay bars... only moneyboys and there customers... it's not a gay life like you can see it in Europe... So it seems to me for young gay there is nothing to go out at night here... may be you can give me any advice?
Thank you

I have two young friends now around 30,  one straight the other gay who come together to Pattaya about 3 times every 2 years

I have been to Pattaya several times at the same time and it was interesting the way both boys met up with each other at discos after 2AM. Each went their own way after an early dinner with me, I think to have a sleep before going out.
I was usually  in bed before they were starting to play.

The straight guy always bragged he picked up more chicks at Hollywood than in straight bars and my gay friend was more successful at Marine Disco in Walking St than anywhere else

Their expression you don't get lucky you create your own luck, always sticks in my mind.

So if you are young, gay and not getting much luck, where are you going. Surely not to the go go bars or saunas.
Why go to the gay beach at all?  You have a job so when do you get to go there. Where do you go at night.

How come you even are in the same location as the BFOC in Sunee. I get the feeling you would have the same loneliness every where, not just Sunee.

If you want the young and gay you go where they are at. And Sunee ain't that

lonelywombat wrote:

Why go to the gay beach at all?  You have a job so when do you get to go there?

The weekends, maybe?  What a stupid question.

Dodger wrote:

Well,  my perspective hasn't changed since I was 18...it's always a turn-on to have someone look at me as a piece of meat, regardless of their age.  

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ROFL Dodger

Here's a true example of how bad it can get!

http://www.pattayaone.net/news_07_07_51_2.html

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