Actually, it was his step-father, who died quite suddenly at the age of 42.

I have just come through the three roughest days of my life, and don't feel like writing more.  Except perhaps the causes of death, following on from chronic alcoholism: (1) septic shock (2) bacterial pneumonia.

ในชีวิดของคนเรามีความสุขมีความทุกค์

The sky which rained for 24 hours before my boyfriend's father's funeral in Mae Salong:

My condolences. In Thai your wrote something to the effect: sometimes life is good, other times not. I rather like a Chinese version that I will paraphrase in English:  The only thing life guarantees is misery so when happiness comes cherish it.

TrongpaiExpat wrote:

My condolences. In Thai your wrote something to the effect: sometimes life is good, other times not. I rather like a Chinese version that I will paraphrase in English:  The only thing life guarantees is misery so when happiness comes cherish it.

In our human life, there is happiness and suffering.  

It's a cliche, for sure -- "Into every life a little rain must fall."  But to have this happen just after one of the happiest nights of my life was...thought-provoking, shall we say.

The problem we are all thinking about is Mom.  She is now living alone with only infant Sithigone.

Will she move to Chiang Mai, or not?  Will she learn to speak Thai?

NOW...I'm for a well-deserved rest, and so is he!

my thoughts are with your boyfriend at a difficult time for his family



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It is difficult to image that the demise of a boy's step-father is the worst event or time of anyone life.
of course, chao na lacks finesse but snaps us back to reality.
Every day, step- parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents meet their end at ages much earlier than average in
the West due to a lack of access to first rate medical treatment, dangerous living conditions including several
people on one motorbike, counterfeit phony medicines, tobacco and alcohol abuse and the list goes on and on..

When a farang's boyfriend dies, it is easily understandable how crushing this might be but non blood related relatives
don't evoke the same feelings and emotions.

I know of several boys with several mothers and several fathers as both birth parents marry again and again.  I couldn't
keep track of the deaths of my regular's mothers as I knew his birth mother had died years ago and his second mother who
raised him died and then young mother committed suicide with the ingestion of hair dye.
He has a birth father, and another step-father who married his second mother and on it goes.
I knew the young mother who killed herself and while it was sad that such a young woman met such an early end, it was
just part of the scheme of things and the Thais don't seem to have a problem accepting death while some of us farangs
don't understand the Buddhist concepts and accept what happens..

I don't seek to excuse the tacky remarks of chao na but really, a step-father alcohol abuser doesn't quite rank with the
death of a beloved boyfriend/partner and while it may sound cold-hearted, it does seem over-dramatic to report it as the
worst event in ones life and somehow Henry is able to still keep on posting after all.  Let us try to not be overly politically correct
and accept the realities of life and death in a third world country...

Yes Cats, you are right.  Any of us who have known more than a few Thai boys have been there.  I don't think I've met a boy whose birth mother and father are together.  Certainly loss of a boyfriends step father is not in 'worst event of my life territory'

If it has affected Henry then my heart goes out to him.  Different people are affected differnetly.  My heart certainly goes out to his boyfriend who must be concerned for his mother as much as anything else.

There is nothing worse in life than losing your step father.  I'm sure his wife grieves him more than her first husband.  Henry, you must tell your BF that his step pappa is now an angle and is looking down on him, watching his every move.  I would not rush into wanting sex with your BF at the moment, give him time to grieve.  If my future husband's step father died I would probably lose my mind.  I will say a prayer for the both of you, and your boyfriend's mother.  Please try to stay calm.

Scott123 is on your IGNORE list.

homintern is on your IGNORE list.

No one has reflected on the age of 42! Why?

homintern is on your IGNORE list.

lo-so wrote:

No one has reflected on the age of 42! Why?

Insufficent Deep Thought

42 is also a Catalan Number.  

Henry, my deepest sympathy to those who grieve.

homintern wrote:

globalwanderer wrote:

Certainly loss of a boyfriends step father is not in 'worst event of my life territory'

Yes, but there are quite a few drama queens who post here.  Wesley for example says has never experienced a more shocking moment in his entire life than hearing that KQuill was locked up

Homintern, I normally enjoy your posts but I think this one went just a little too far.  Henry's boyfriends alcoholic step father just past away and he was kind enough to share his grief here on this board.  If Henry is wiped out over this ordeal...just think what his BF is going through.  For people to needle Henry over this tragic loss is just uncalled for.  

Henry, if there is anything I or any willing members of this board can do to help you overcome this tragic loss...please let us know.  My heart goes out to both you and your BF.

Condolences to your bf on his sad loss.