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[Singapore Sexpat]

Well as I mentioned before my bf will be applying for tourist visa with permission to marry. All the paperwork has been completed and he was put through a mock interview by the agent. He did pretty well without any help from me and has chosen to answer the questions in English should an interview take place. A file has been put together and the bf will be off to VFS to submit the application on Wednesday.

I'll keep all posted here as to how things progress.

Have you considered a pre-nuptial agreement?

A cautionary tale: a buddy of mine did the same thing you are doing. Married bf, took him home, got him citizenship. Three years later, the bf filed for divorce, took the house, the car, and half the cash. An expensive lesson.

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[Singapore Sexpat]

Indeed. Marriage is a serious matter, with serious consequences. Just ask Paul McCartney.

[Singapore Sexpat]

PS: it is all the more important if you are starting with little. Your husband will have a legal right to 50% of everything you earn and acquire while you are together.

[sjaak327]

A pre-nup arrangement is the first order of business when you have any wedding plans. Did not know that the UK now allows same sex marriages.

[555]

Did not know that the UK now allows same sex marriages.

It doesn't, but when I raised the point earlier John informed that the visa forms use the term "marriage" even though the permission is for a "civil partnership".

[ceejay]

A few comments on this as far as English law goes:

A divorce settlement is not necessarily for 50%. The concept in English law is for "maintenance" - maintaining the partner in the style to which they have become accustomed, if you like. That is obvioulsy dependent on your own means and lifestyle. In addition to this, an assessment is made of any contribution the partner may have made to acquiring the assets accumulated during the marriage. This is widely interpreted to include providing the comfort and support of a home, for example, but does not necessarily mean 50%.

Be sure to count all your assets before you decide you don't have too much to worry about. If you have money saved away for a pension, and especially if that provides for a continuing dependant's pension after your death, then the courts can order a division of the pension. The court will make an order to the trustees/managers of the fund, and it will be divided into two pots, one for you and one for the ex.

If you have made a will, it will be nullified by your marriage. Your husband will become the principal beneficiary of your estate if you die intestate. If you want to, you will need to make a new will.

Assuming that you do wish to make provision in a will for your new husband, then you may want to consider setting up a trust fund. I don't know what Lao boys are like with money, but if they are anything like Thais......

But - life is not a business, and if you don't trust him enough to take some risk, why get married in the first place? I'm not saying throw all caution to the winds, just that nothing in life is risk free.

John, I hope it all works out for you and you will be very happy together. Good luck

[homintern]

However as I don't own property in the UK presently and have no plans to do so in the near future I guess it isn't necessary yet? But a good point and certainly food for thought for me.

All the Mem'sahibs are well aware they they will be able to divide up the overdraft between themselves equally after my death

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[JJDeed]

John its been nearly a week how did you get on with your young mans visa application ???? don't keep us all in suspenders dear

[allieb]

I certainly will do a new will as the present one mentions the ex-wife.

John certainly do a new will now, for the immediate future but you will find in UK law it becomes invalid as soon as you go through a civil partnership, when you must make another one dated after the ceremony.

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[Brad the Impala]

No cash, nor personal or business cheques.

Curious. At the British Embassy in Budapest, the visa fees are only accepted in cash!